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So you are looking to buy some lingerie? It is an online boutique. So you can’t try anything on. You are wondering, “What would look the best on me? What would be the most comfortable? What would show off what I like about myself and cover up what I don’t like?”
Let me tell you, this is a tall order. But hopefully you will find these basic guidelines helpful.
The first thing to ask yourself is, “What shape is my body?” Just because your body is a particular shape doesn’t mean that one is good and the other bad. It just means that we are all different. And I know you have heard it said a thousand times, what a boring and uninteresting world it would be if everyone was exactly the same. But it’s true! So try to be thankful for who you are and focus on buying what’s right for you.
We will start with BANANA first. This is when you refer to yourself as “straight as a stick.” You usually have awesome legs. So hey, show them off! You may not mind wearing something short. Perhaps you have been doing some hot butt exercises and you want to show off your cheeks a little. There’s nothing like a super short nighty and thong for that. You would look good in about anything, tight or flowing. Just remember that if your boobs are small, you will not want something that has an underwire. Here is a small example of what you might find looks good on you.
Now we have APPLE. You might consider yourself “top heavy.” You usually have an awesome cleavage! Show that beauty off. Not every woman has that opportunity. You are special because you usually have great legs too! Now you do not want to wear anything tight fitting. Make sure your lingerie is not too tight in the bodice. Don’t be too concerned if it doesn’t cover most of your beauty boobs. Here’s a secret…..it’s not supposed to. Flowing skirts are great. Something with a slimming panel is even better. I have found sometimes with apple shapes that their torso is short. So opt for something that lengthens this. Like lines, a panel or a longer skirt. Here is a small example of what you might find looks good on you.
Next up, the PEAR. Here you might refer to yourself as “thunder thighs!” It’s really not as bad as you think. Just consider yourself curvy! Usually it is not the thighs at all. It is the smaller upper body. Flat boob syndrome. This only makes the thighs appear larger than you think they should. You might not want to wear anything with an underwire if you have small breasts. It won’t fit. A thousand times, No! But you do want to dramatize that area, so it appears larger than it is. Find a piece that has a fitting bodice and a definite line between the bodice and the skirt. This will help enhance your smaller area. The thighs are easy. Wear a skirt that flares. It should not be tight fitting, but skirt like. Flowing. Also, you probably will not feel comfortable wearing anything short. Opt for something longer. Here is a small example of what you might find looks good on you.
Last of all we have the HOUR GLASS. Why isn’t this a fruit? Oh well. Tight fitting lingerie looks best on this shape. You will want to show off your small waist and thus accentuate your curviness. A tight fitting lingerie is about the only thing that will show this off to it’s best advantage. You will look good in most anything, but if you are looking to show off what is your best feature, you will need to opt for a tight fit. This can mean short too. So be brave! If you have small boobs, then refer to the pear shape because you may be more that shape than you think. Here is a small example of what you might find looks good on you.
Everyone has certain areas of their body that they don’t necessarily want to flash all over the place. That’s okay. Choose the lingerie that fits you. Don’t try to stuff yourself into something that makes you feel uncomfortable because you won’t wear it. Ever!!!
Choose the area of your body that you think is pretty hot. Maybe it’s your cleavage or your caboose. Feel the confident you!
The lingerie that is on the model is not going to look like that on you. Remember this when shopping for lingerie with models in them. That picture has had painstaking hours in Paint Shop. The actual lingerie has even been altered to fit her better!
You pay for what you get. If you pay anything less than $30 for a negligee it will be “china cheap.” So expect that there will be threads hanging that need trimmed, wrinkles that won’t come out, or stitching coming undone. If you want something really nice, you are going to have to pay a little more for it.
I have given this book to many blushing brides. Everyone of them have told me later on that they were so thankful for this book. Even the couple that were too busy to read the book before the wedding, found it most helpful after they had become frustrated at what they thought would just “happen”. Let me tell you, it doesn’t just happen.
More and more I am finding that mother’s avoid telling their daughters about anything. And when I say anything, I mean anything! I’m not sure why this is. I am truly thankful for my mother. She scavenged for just the right book and found this one. My fiancé and I were able to read this, not together but at separate times, before the wedding night. I was a virgin. I was fascinated to find out things about myself that I never knew. In reading this book I was amazed yet again at God’s loving details in creating our bodies. I was able to prepare myself mentally, spiritually, and physically for this special night.
If you are a virgin you will not be able to “just have sex”. This book describes why and how to help for your first time. If the man is not careful he can cause great discomfort that will last a good week after you have made it back from the honeymoon. You might not want this. Doesn’t sound like a lot of fun? Well this book helps it to be fun. Patience is key, after knowledge. You may ask, “Why didn’t God make it more natural and easier?” I don’t know. It is what it is and has been for thousands of years. So take a deep breath and read this book. You’ll do fine!
First of all this book describes what God intended sex to be. Not what the world and Satan have made it to be. Next it tells how your bodies work and how sex works. It gives a lot of information for the man. He needs to know how to please you just as much as you pleasing him. A common issue for men is getting excited too soon. This book teaches the woman how to help. The book covers all kinds of problems or issues that might come up for the couple.
If you do not want to get pregnant on your wedding night you may want to consider talking about birth control. This book describes all the different options out there. What are the pros and cons of them. What are the side effects. If you are leaning towards a more natural approach, an excellent book is Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, MPH. This book is best purchased well in advance of your wedding so you can practice this method for several months before the wedding night in order to ensure it’s effectiveness. If this is not possible for you, then you can use some other birth control until you have a chance to read and practice the book’s information at a later date. Some birth controls out there do cause you to abort the baby (fertilized egg). This book is open and honest in letting you know which ones they are.
Some very important things to remember if you do not want to get pregnant……..Read about what foreplay is. You can get pregnant from any kind of “fluid” that comes from the man and it doesn’t have to be put up into your vagina!!! This may seem graphic, but it is the only way to help you understand the importance of it. If you are too rough with a condom during foreplay it could tear or get a hole in it just when you need it. All it takes is a tiny, tiny hole. Also, if you “mess around” too long after the fact; the “juices” can come out around the seam of the condom and this is enough!!!
It is good to take this book with you on your honeymoon. You will want to refer back to it after you have had some hands on experience.
Last but not least; keep in mind that it is not at all unusual for a virgin couple to not have sex on their wedding night. Do not feel like you are a looser because you don’t get it done that night. You are virgins!!! This is a great honor; not shameful, wimpy, or disgraceful!
Guys, put away pride forever!!! It is not becoming. And if you haven’t kissed before the wedding; you will need to take it easy or else the wife will have swollen, red, and hurt lips. This is not fun. Your lips aren’t toughened up to the whiskers. It doesn’t matter if he has just shaved or not. They are tender. Crazy, but true! God bless!!!
So, you are going to be a bride. The past three or more months have been full of decisions. What colors, what kind of cake, what songs? And the list never ends. Your heart is full of love and anticipation. The big day is about to come. The day you have waited and dreamed of since you were a little girl. After all the work is done you can finally say to yourself, “I got this. Almost done planning my big day.” You smile and take a deep sigh of rest. But suddenly your mind is jolted to attention. “What am I going to wear……you know, when the dress has to come off!” Yes, my dear, the dress must come off. So starts the search in the jungle of lingerie.
“I’m looking for something white and romantic.” , you tell the store clerk. She gives you a blank stare. Maybe you are new to lingerie, like I was. I had no clue what was out there. I was horrified. I was defeated. I couldn’t even come close to finding what I had in mind. It just wasn’t out there. No taste. No elegance. Nothing pure and sweet. I wasn’t going to be the lady in red! I was going to be the bride in white!! I didn’t want some short, see-through, crotchless, stringy thing. I wanted something that would reflect my wedding dress. Well, I’m sorry to tell you, girls; I didn’t find it.
The question is often asked, “Will I even need a negilgee on my wedding night?” Everyone is different. I ended up wearing a white corset, panties, girdle belt, and silk stockings. Yes, that was under my dress. But what I did use was my robe. And keep in mind that though you are on your honeymoon, you are still first and foremost a bride. Just because the first night is over, that doesn’t mean you might not desire to wear some beautiful, luxurious lingerie the next night and the next and the next. Having a white, lacy, matching set (robe and negligee), gives you that feeling of royalty. Anything with bright colors makes you feel spicy. So keep this all in mind while shopping for that special piece. Ooh la la let the fun begin!
Here is a book that Kasey first read. She gave it to me to read, thinking it would be good to give away at our home parties. I read it and gleaned so much truth, (from it’s many topics to it’s openness about difficult issues).
Some of it’s topics are ….
What does God think about sex?
“I think that most of us view sex differently than God does. Many people think that God views sex as sinful. Or maybe we don’t associate sex in the same thought as God. The truth is God gave us the wonderful gift of sex.”
In this book the authors dive into God’s Word, shedding light on how God views sex and how we should too.
Satan has desecrated God’s beautiful gift of sex. God desires that a husband and wife be naked and unashamed; glorying in the giving and receiving of exquisite pleasure and rejoicing in the intimate oneness that sex brings -the way God intended.
Where can I go to buy a new body?
Rules, rules, rules. This world is full of them, right? We can’t see them, but they are still there.
1. Thou Shalt Be Thin!
2. Thou Shalt Have Perfectly Large, Firm Breasts!
3. …..on and on
We all know these rules can not be kept. Especially after children!
As long as we listen to the world’s message about our bodies we will never be satisfied with how we look. Instead of listening to the world’s message we need to listen to what God says. “Rejoice in the body I gave you. Use it to honor Me and please your husband.”
This book helped me in many ways. I hope everyone can get the experience to read this book.
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