I have given this book to many blushing brides. Everyone of them have told me later on that they were so thankful for this book. Even the couple that were too busy to read the book before the wedding, found it most helpful after they had become frustrated at what they thought would just “happen”. Let me tell you, it doesn’t just happen.
More and more I am finding that mother’s avoid telling their daughters about anything. And when I say anything, I mean anything! I’m not sure why this is. I am truly thankful for my mother. She scavenged for just the right book and found this one. My fiancé and I were able to read this, not together but at separate times, before the wedding night. I was a virgin. I was fascinated to find out things about myself that I never knew. In reading this book I was amazed yet again at God’s loving details in creating our bodies. I was able to prepare myself mentally, spiritually, and physically for this special night.
If you are a virgin you will not be able to “just have sex”. This book describes why and how to help for your first time. If the man is not careful he can cause great discomfort that will last a good week after you have made it back from the honeymoon. You might not want this. Doesn’t sound like a lot of fun? Well this book helps it to be fun. Patience is key, after knowledge. You may ask, “Why didn’t God make it more natural and easier?” I don’t know. It is what it is and has been for thousands of years. So take a deep breath and read this book. You’ll do fine!
First of all this book describes what God intended sex to be. Not what the world and Satan have made it to be. Next it tells how your bodies work and how sex works. It gives a lot of information for the man. He needs to know how to please you just as much as you pleasing him. A common issue for men is getting excited too soon. This book teaches the woman how to help. The book covers all kinds of problems or issues that might come up for the couple.
If you do not want to get pregnant on your wedding night you may want to consider talking about birth control. This book describes all the different options out there. What are the pros and cons of them. What are the side effects. If you are leaning towards a more natural approach, an excellent book is Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, MPH. This book is best purchased well in advance of your wedding so you can practice this method for several months before the wedding night in order to ensure it’s effectiveness. If this is not possible for you, then you can use some other birth control until you have a chance to read and practice the book’s information at a later date. Some birth controls out there do cause you to abort the baby (fertilized egg). This book is open and honest in letting you know which ones they are.
Some very important things to remember if you do not want to get pregnant……..Read about what foreplay is. You can get pregnant from any kind of “fluid” that comes from the man and it doesn’t have to be put up into your vagina!!! This may seem graphic, but it is the only way to help you understand the importance of it. If you are too rough with a condom during foreplay it could tear or get a hole in it just when you need it. All it takes is a tiny, tiny hole. Also, if you “mess around” too long after the fact; the “juices” can come out around the seam of the condom and this is enough!!!
It is good to take this book with you on your honeymoon. You will want to refer back to it after you have had some hands on experience.
Last but not least; keep in mind that it is not at all unusual for a virgin couple to not have sex on their wedding night. Do not feel like you are a looser because you don’t get it done that night. You are virgins!!! This is a great honor; not shameful, wimpy, or disgraceful!
Guys, put away pride forever!!! It is not becoming. And if you haven’t kissed before the wedding; you will need to take it easy or else the wife will have swollen, red, and hurt lips. This is not fun. Your lips aren’t toughened up to the whiskers. It doesn’t matter if he has just shaved or not. They are tender. Crazy, but true! God bless!!!